How to tell if he's gay

Now I've always prided myself on my amazing gaydar but sometimes that gaydar just doesn't work. So I've been trying to figure out, "can you really know if the hot guy working with you is gay?" I know I'm not the only woman who has come up against this question.

For those who don't know, a gaydar, (according to Urban Dictionary) is the ability/gift of being able to detect homosexuality in other people.

When I talk about my "gaydar" it's nothing super exciting. If a gay guy walks in the room and I have my back to him, NO I can't sense him with my gaydar. I have to look at a man and just by his mannerisms I can usually tell if he's gay.

Disclaimer: I do not claim to be an  expert in this subject, these are my own personal methods.

Things I see that I automatically put a man in the Homosexual category:

• His walk: If his hips sway more than mine do
• His Talk: This includes his voice, the way his mouth moves, and his vernacular
• His hand: Watch his hand, the way it moves always tips me off

 It's the little things I look for.

Now what do you do if the cute guy near your desk makes your gaydar go off like crazy, but he claims to have a girlfriend?  You believe him! Do not force him to come out (if you have strong vibes that he's gay), he probably isn't gay or is in denial. This is advice I've given myself to take and listen to, so I know how hard it is to follow! (Well not really... I have a lot of self-control). Because honestly, there's no proven way to find out a guy is gay unless you ask him, but why put him (and yourself) through that embarrassment.

The cute guy you work with seems straight in every sense of the word, EXCEPT that when he walks he sways his hips more than Shakira! Never in my life have I met a heterosexual man who sways their hips that much! How can he say he has a girlfriend but my gaydar goes off like crazy when he walks?

My advice... let it go. If he doesn't have a girlfriend and he's gay than he's off limits. And if he's straight with a girlfriend, then he is for sure off limits! Just play nice and don't mention anything about his sexuality. Because it's obviously none of your business.

~"Katty"rina